Often when I am in a coffee shop and look around, I see individuals poring over newspapers. Engrossed. And mostly with not very happy expressions on their faces. They will quite often be commenting to others around them, including me unasked, about this or that terrible happening. Whether it’s the war or violence or murder or rape or…. But the theme is virtually always some disaster of whatever degree.
Seldom do I see or hear people commenting about any snippet of good news. Why is this I wonder? Some will say to me, yes but you have to keep up with the news you know. As if it was possible to be aware of everything that is going on on the planet. And elsewhere. And why the focus on all that is bad or negative?
I don’t necessarily have answers, but I do have a solution for myself at least. I am of the opinion that, because others are so concerned about the news, I will likely be kept up to date anyway of anything I urgently need to know. It is said that that is escaping reality. I disagree. I am very aware of the negative aspects and occurrences in the world, but I consciously choose to focus on that which is bright and positive in the world, also a reality. I am certainly happier for this approach. And surely we would wish to be happier? The negative circumstances may continue irrespective of my or others’ reactions or responses to them. And indeed, the possibility of having a positive influence is more likely with a positive attitude than negative.
And the news is mostly third party anyway – someone else’s perception of what is being reported. And of course it may be true – or not.
And so: I would rather to a certain extent create my own news where and when possible. I shall focus mostly on the good and beautiful around me. There is after all plenty of that – if only we just desire and intend to see it. And add to it where I am able.
I am a Recovery Coach, Life Coach, Author and Speaker. I live in Cape Town, South Africa.