Day 5: Self-Love For All The Past
Love yourself no matter what you have done in and with your life. It is unlikely that you ever went out of your way to do bad or wrong. You are human and fallible. Like everyone else, we have made mistakes, we have wronged ourselves and others, and we have made ourselves and others unhappy. We have done again things that we said we would never do again. Like everyone else we have our weaknesses. We have given in to temptation.
Through all of this, God continues to love us all the time. God gave us freedom to think and choose and decide and act. With that freedom we have often gone off track. Sometimes we have learned our lessons and grown as a result. Many times we wonder how we could have done such things. We did do them. We are part of universal humanity making mistakes, sometimes repeatedly. The past is all a part of our glorious God-given lives.
At least we are aware that there is a difference between right and wrong, good and bad. Knowing this, we can always strive to be better.
Acknowledging this, let us love ourselves, not only in spite of the past, but especially because of the past.
It has all brought us to where we are now, a good place to be. A place of making a sincere effort to be a better person.
Our Past Is Neither Our Present Nor Our Future
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Day 4: Self-Love Now
Not only is accepting yourself important, liking yourself is even more important and loving yourself is the real thing.
Very often we love other people, other animals, other things, and we don’t really love ourselves.
Often we feel we are not worthy of love, or we will love ourselves when we are nicer, or better, or richer, or in better physical shape. All these other things will come to us quicker and in greater quantity when we love ourselves exactly as we are now.
We really have done our best, although it may not appear that way. We are human beings. We are fallible. We have probably done a lot of good things in our lives as well.
No matter what, if we do not love ourselves, we cannot really fully love others, because we are loving from an ‘unwhole’ heart.
We cannot love others fully if our own heart is not filled with love for ourselves, for that is the source of all our love.
Real Self-Love Is Gloriously Unselfish, Is Generous
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Attitude - Section Two
My belief in the power, influence and effect of attitude goes way back and incorporates other aspects of the mind. Essentially, a positive and optimistic attitude have been of paramount importance to me as far back as I can remember. An upbeat approach to life. An outlook of joie de vivre.
Attitude has also long been something I have felt vital to an enjoyment or rather even joy of life, of living. Regarding my positive and optimistic attitude towards life many have asked how I could drink so abusively when I had such a good attitude. A good question, but at least it helped me to stay attuned to the eventual healing I experienced. However, it is so that on the lower level of attitude I always felt that I should be positive at all times, no matter how I felt or what the circumstances were. By doing this I now realise that I was piling positive thoughts, feelings and emotions on top of any negatives that existed and they did.
At some stage they would have to surface and I think when they did I gave in to alcohol again. Attitude was all about the mind, all in the mind, mind over matter, the power of the mind to the almost exclusion of feelings and emotion and the heart. Not taking into account that we are also body and soul, not just mind. And so my attitude became one of accepting certain negative realities rather than just passing over them as if a good attitude would eliminate them.
I believe that my positive and optimistic attitude has played a major role in my life, in a number of ways. As a result of this approach to life, I have been able to lead a very joyful and enjoyable life, even through the depths of alcoholism. It may well be so that the fact that I am alive can be largely attributed to this attitude.
Attitude has a bearing on virtually all aspects of our lives. In my case, I was encouraged by my attitude to develop and maintain a purposeful approach. My attitude motivated me to exercise regularly, to seek spiritual answers to my questions of life, to appreciate and be grateful.
Source: A SANE MAP - My Journey in Recovery from Addiction.
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Life is not theory, ii is practice; and that should be practice the verb. Hence the title ‘Living Approach’, not ‘Life Approach’.
It is easy to talk, theorise and philosophise about life. But what happens on the ground, as it were, is what counts.
And yet; how we approach life influences how we live life. What is our attitude towards life? Each moment of our lives we can consciously decide what our attitude or approach to life, to living, is going to be. Our attitude or approach to living is one of the few factors over which we do have much individual control. Our life, our living wholesomely and fulfillingly, requires of us that we use this power wisely. It really is in our own hands. And minds and hearts.
Of course circumstances in our lives affect and influence us. but we have the capacity to determine how we adapt to what our current life circumstances happen to be.
Would you choose to be happy rather than unhappy? What causes you to be happy? This for another topic of discussion, but often very small things in life reward us with the greatest happiness. And such ‘small’ things as a simple smile and greeting to a stranger can afford us with maximum joy.
At this moment of reading, what is your ‘living approach’? It is your choice and your decision. And again now. And now. And…
I am a Recovery Coach, Life Coach, Author and Speaker. I live in Cape Town, South Africa.