Day 4: Self-Love Now
Not only is accepting yourself important, liking yourself is even more important and loving yourself is the real thing.
Very often we love other people, other animals, other things, and we don’t really love ourselves.
Often we feel we are not worthy of love, or we will love ourselves when we are nicer, or better, or richer, or in better physical shape. All these other things will come to us quicker and in greater quantity when we love ourselves exactly as we are now.
We really have done our best, although it may not appear that way. We are human beings. We are fallible. We have probably done a lot of good things in our lives as well.
No matter what, if we do not love ourselves, we cannot really fully love others, because we are loving from an ‘unwhole’ heart.
We cannot love others fully if our own heart is not filled with love for ourselves, for that is the source of all our love.
Real Self-Love Is Gloriously Unselfish, Is Generous
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Day 3: Acceptance Of Others
It is important to accept others exactly as they are.
To have no expectations of them, whoever they may be – family, relative, friend, and colleague. We might influence others but we cannot change them. Just as only we can change ourselves, so can others only change themselves.
If we have no expectations of others, we cannot be disappointed. Just as we have freedom of choice in everything, including how we behave, so do they. There are probably people wishing that we were different, but we are what we are. The same applies to them. We make mistakes, can be unpleasant, behave badly, are rude etc. We do these things so we need to accept that others do as well.
Whereas some time ago, I might have done something wrong, and, angry as I was then, with time I have accepted it happened and cannot be changed. Someone else might be doing a similar wrong currently. The only difference is the time factor. In time she/he may well accept it. We will be wise to accept it right now.
We will retain our positive energy by accepting others for who and what they are, and not waste our energy on negative, debilitating wishes for others to be different.
“If You Feel Good About Yourself You Will Feel Good About Other People” – Myles Munroe
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A SANE MAP for Living. Much of the content of LIVING THROUGH ADDICTION revolves around this acronym. There is a story behind this acronym which I shall share later. Suffice for a very brief introduction that the S denotes Spirituality. As will become obvious as we journey together, my definition of Spirituality is very wide and inclusive.
No-one should think there is anything dogmatic or exclusive in my usage of this word. Nevertheless, I shall be recounting my own experiences and understanding of Spirituality which in fact underpins my whole approach to healing and recovery.
I shall be discussing various levels of my experience of this acronym: at a certain level my understanding, embracing and external expression of Spirituality enabled me to lead a very full(filling) life even during the many years of my alcohol abuse and addiction. But, vitally, at a deeper level of Spiritual experience I was empowered to overcome the addiction and continue in my leading a non-alcohol-addicted life. Freedom!!
Essentially my desire and intention is to pass on to others whatever benefits may accrue from the recounting of parts of my life story: experiences, reading writing and studies. This will encompass all aspects of my life, so that hopefully others may learn from my successes and failures; my strengths and weaknesses; my light or benevolent characteristics and behaviour as well as my dark or shadow characteristics and behaviour.
This is an honest and open attempt to hold my life up as a mirror in which others may see something of themselves, both good and less so. I hope that you as reader may be beneficially affected and effected in some way, whether primarily for yourself or someone else known to you.
Originally posted: 31 Oct 2011
I am a Personal Development Consultant, Life Coach, Author and Speaker. I live in Cape Town, South Africa.