Day 4: Self-Love Now
Not only is accepting yourself important, liking yourself is even more important and loving yourself is the real thing.
Very often we love other people, other animals, other things, and we don’t really love ourselves.
Often we feel we are not worthy of love, or we will love ourselves when we are nicer, or better, or richer, or in better physical shape. All these other things will come to us quicker and in greater quantity when we love ourselves exactly as we are now.
We really have done our best, although it may not appear that way. We are human beings. We are fallible. We have probably done a lot of good things in our lives as well.
No matter what, if we do not love ourselves, we cannot really fully love others, because we are loving from an ‘unwhole’ heart.
We cannot love others fully if our own heart is not filled with love for ourselves, for that is the source of all our love.
Real Self-Love Is Gloriously Unselfish, Is Generous
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Attitude - Section Two
My belief in the power, influence and effect of attitude goes way back and incorporates other aspects of the mind. Essentially, a positive and optimistic attitude have been of paramount importance to me as far back as I can remember. An upbeat approach to life. An outlook of joie de vivre.
Attitude has also long been something I have felt vital to an enjoyment or rather even joy of life, of living. Regarding my positive and optimistic attitude towards life many have asked how I could drink so abusively when I had such a good attitude. A good question, but at least it helped me to stay attuned to the eventual healing I experienced. However, it is so that on the lower level of attitude I always felt that I should be positive at all times, no matter how I felt or what the circumstances were. By doing this I now realise that I was piling positive thoughts, feelings and emotions on top of any negatives that existed and they did.
At some stage they would have to surface and I think when they did I gave in to alcohol again. Attitude was all about the mind, all in the mind, mind over matter, the power of the mind to the almost exclusion of feelings and emotion and the heart. Not taking into account that we are also body and soul, not just mind. And so my attitude became one of accepting certain negative realities rather than just passing over them as if a good attitude would eliminate them.
I believe that my positive and optimistic attitude has played a major role in my life, in a number of ways. As a result of this approach to life, I have been able to lead a very joyful and enjoyable life, even through the depths of alcoholism. It may well be so that the fact that I am alive can be largely attributed to this attitude.
Attitude has a bearing on virtually all aspects of our lives. In my case, I was encouraged by my attitude to develop and maintain a purposeful approach. My attitude motivated me to exercise regularly, to seek spiritual answers to my questions of life, to appreciate and be grateful.
Source: A SANE MAP - My Journey in Recovery from Addiction.
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I am a Personal Development Consultant, Life Coach, Author and Speaker. I live in Cape Town, South Africa.